OK so straight up my goal is never to be skinny, it’s to feel good and fit well in my clothes. I love feeling fit and healthy! I love it so much, it’s my favourite feeling in the world. I love going for a run without being crazy out of breath, I love being able to do a sit up, and I love doing squats! I love the feeling it gives me so much.
It wasn’t always this way. I smoked for ten years and when I lived in Paris, I drank almost every night for 5 years. I’ve had a complete breakdown, gained and lost 3 stone twice, and had post natal depression, so I feel pretty able to talk about cravings and how to get rid of them.
I’ve coached women now for 12 years, the first first six years it was just myself, and then I built a team and called it ‘Inspire Fitness’, which is what we are now… and I love it! I love helping women feel good, get fit, healthy, and watching them progress, grow.. and falling in love with being healthy.
With the tough stuff I’ve been through in my life, I’ve realised that anything is pretty easy to conquer once you’ve mastered yourself and your emotions… and once you’re committed to change.
The hardest part is committing. Getting past that point of pre-contemplation/contemplation. You can stay at that point for years. At that point, everything is too tough/too hard/I can’t do it.
Once you get into decision/commit/action time, there’s no stopping you. Why? Because you’ve made the decision. You’ve spent a lot of time on your ‘why’, and you’ve spent enough time/too much time in the contemplation phase.
Getting rid of late night snacking, and eating sugar mid-week is life changing. It’s a game changer.
Eating sugar/junk food/crisps etc holds you back. It stops you getting any sort of results and you walk around feeling constantly bad about yourself. For me, it’s like carrying around a little black cloud around all day. You eat well, you workout and then BOOM, after dinner, you act like a difference person. What helped stop me drinking and smoking and eating sugar mid-week was this:
Sit with your emotions. I went through a very painful time when I stopped smoking/drinking and started working out. I cried after every session, and found it extremely difficult mentally to get through a session. I was so weak mentally to workout, if that makes sense. But I stuck with it and I came out the other end. You’ll come out the other end too. Stronger.
We all have bad days, every single one of us, when we sit on the couch and eat crap. But the rest of the time, you CAN sit there and not eat something. You CAN. Walk around telling yourself you can’t if you want, but you can. You have to develop a decisive voice in your head that can control your emotions. You have to learn to sit there and be at peace with yourself or you will be at this for the rest of your life.
You need to find happiness in a warm room with a good program on, or enjoy how a cup of tea feels after a long day. You need to take away the control food has over you, by being strong and getting in control yourself. Find joy in simple things.
You need to figure out what you want. Who are you now? Are you fit and healthy? Do you love working out? Do you love eating healthy food? Chances are you’ve changed since you last asked yourself this stuff. Then go and align your actions with who you are now.
We have thousands of thoughts that run through our brain every day. Know that you don’t have to listen to them all. Most of them aren’t important, don’t take them so seriously. If your brain is telling you to eat sugar, tell it to feck off and think of something else. There’s no need to give such importance to every single thought.
Tony Robbins teachings have changed my life. I’ve been to two of his seminars and it was life changing . I’ll finish this with one of his quotes:
“Using the power of decision gives you the capacity to get past any excuse to change any and every part of your life in an instant.” Tony Robbins
I hope you enjoyed this blog post, please comment below if you’ve any questions or would like to get in touch.
Jessica Cooke
Great post and great way to look at it Jessica.. makes so much sense to just make a decision..
Thanks Ceara, really glad you enjoyed, thanks for sharing your thoughts! <3
Thanks Ceara, really glad you enjoyed, thanks for sharing your thoughts! <3
Great post and great way to look at it Jessica.. makes so much sense to just make a decision..