Whether we hit our life goals or not, all comes down to our belief system. We get our belief system from our childhood, the things we were taught, the things that were told to us, and what we witnessed, and from all that we form a picture of ourselves, that we believe to be the truth.
My mentor once told me that if you are trying to achieve a goal, you’ll only get there if you work more on yourself, than the actual goal. I didn’t really know what we meant at the time, but know, a few years later, I completely get it.
If we you have a picture of yourself formed from childhood, and that picture doesn’t match where’ll you be (or what you’ll look like), if you achieve your goal, you’re never going to get there.
So if you believe you’re a failure, you’ll always, eventually fail.
If you believe you’re lazy, you’ll always, sub-consciously, put weight back on and quit working out.
If you believe you don’t have willpower, or you’re not strong enough, you’ll never be strong, or at least not for long.
If you believe you’re a naturally stressed person, you’ll aways be stressed.
And that is what makes us go around in circles.
For example, you want to lose weight, so you lose some weight, but you will not under any circumstances keep it off for good, if your belief system you have of yourself does not match that.
And this is where the problem lies! It’s not more training, less calories, a new fad, a new diet plan, the 5/2 diet, the keto diet, it is your belief system you have of yourself that is getting in the way! If you can’t actually visualise yourself as a successful, happy, slim, fit woman, you will never permanently stay there.
So you have got to change your belief system you have of yourself, if you want permanent lasting change.
This part takes work and commitment, and is much harder to do, than chasing a new diet, because you have to face up to things that you may have been hiding from. You’ve got to understand that picture you have of yourself, and then challenge it. You’ve got to find a new way of thinking about yourself, and how you talk to yourself.
Visualisation, journaling, meditation are three really powerful tools to help you with this, that only take 30 minutes out of your day, that I’ll discuss in the next blog post.
Hope this helps, please comment with your thoughts,
Jessica Cooke X
P.S I had to include a photo of one of my amazing clients Bernie, because she’s just such a legend. She lost 5 stone AND kept it off. She truly changed. (and thats with two arthritic knees!!!)
Brilliant advice for a life-long maintainance regime – both mentally and physically. Well done. X
Thank you so much Yvonne X
Great motivation Jessica your blogs just pop up at the right time
Really glad they help Geraldine <3